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CalliesParents
Egg
Joined: 04 Mar 2006
Posts: 8
Location: MI |
| My Sun Conure loves my man and not me? |
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We are new to the forum as well as Callies new parents.
Callie was a great find, after being in the bird market for 2 years we walked into a very familiar and reputable pet store where we have purchased and sold numerous Cichlids’. We were just planning on doing some window shopping when low and behold there was the most beautiful little parrot we (Brad, Skyla my daughter and I Stacy) have ever seen. As we approached her she became very excited and called us over. We were in love! Callie is a 4 year old Sun Conure, had been sold to the store by her previous owners, and we have little info about her past.
Upon arrival to her new home Callie instantly bonded with Brad, as well a welcomed me. After 3 weeks however, Callie seems to have a crush on MY MAN. It wouldn’t be a problem but she is also becoming more aggressive towards me and my daughter. She has struck at both our faces a few times and drew blood on my hand this morning. Callie is my pet and she is really beginning to hurt my feelings. In addition Callie is getting JEALOUS when Brad pays attention to anybody else when she is around. I know it sounds like whining but all the other pets (2 cats, like 10 fish, and a turtle) love Brad most, Callie was my pet to be close to. How can I get my bird to love me? |
Saturday March 4, 2006 4:07 pm |
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Cheeta
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Joined: 06 Apr 2005
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Location: Australia |
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Hi Callie..
Welcome to fluffies...
You sounds like you've got a fairly common problem there!!  birds choosing someone else as their prefered human. It is indeed very hard to see how things would work out in the future when you get a bird.
I'm sorry to hear that Callie has been aggressive. Somethings that you can try doing with her is to be persistant with her and spend as much time as you possibly can with her (even though this could cause you a lot of pain and blood spill!!) Be the one to give her treats and letting her out of her cage of out times... Let Brad be the nasty guy around the place.. it could be a bit hard for him to do that though...
It actually sounds a lot like my parents bird.. She bonded really well with my mum, but she absolutely hated my dad... But after much much persistent with her.. constantly talking to her, and trying to play with her (you'll need to do this without showing the fear of bitten again.. I know this is very hard to do....), and giving her treats and stuff... she now gets really excited when my dad comes from work.. she actually looks forward to her lone time with her daddy. it is very cute to watch.
All I can say once again, is persistant without showing fear... be her friends, don't be afraid of her. She's probably testing boundary right now to establish her 'rank' in the flock. You'll need to show her who's the boss as well without scaring her of course.
As with Callie getting jealous when Brad is not giving all of his attention.. You'll need to make Callie realised that you're all part of the flock, and that Brad cares about you guys as well.... have her on a playgym somewhere watching while you guys cuddle in front of her, and having a good laugh and generally being together. She'll hopefully eventually get the idea that she's not the only one that Brad cares about... Oh make sure to involve her in the activities every now and then too...
Good luck.
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Saturday March 4, 2006 4:35 pm |
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Cathy
Kamikaze pilot
Joined: 02 Apr 2005
Posts: 6673
Location: Omaha, NE USA |
Hi Stacy & big congrats on the newest member of your family
I don't have one in our family, but my avian vet has a sun conure & I think they're just beautiful!
I agree with Bih - persistance, patience & time. I think it's a great idea that you offer her treats from your hand, be the main "treat giver" for awhile maybe |
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Saturday March 4, 2006 4:43 pm |
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CalliesParents
Egg
Joined: 04 Mar 2006
Posts: 8
Location: MI |
| 5 Step Program? |
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I read an earlier post about a 5 step program recommended by a vet. Could this Help my situation? |
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Saturday March 4, 2006 5:08 pm |
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Fluffy Sue
Joined: 13 Jan 2005
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| Re: 5 Step Program? |
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I think that could help you a great deal.. Sadly I don't have an example video for you, but if you have questions, I'd be happy to answer them. |
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Sunday March 5, 2006 12:07 am |
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CalliesParents
Egg
Joined: 04 Mar 2006
Posts: 8
Location: MI |
| RE: Five Step Program |
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Hello all, Ok I am new to the five step program and could use a little help. First of all I saw the five step program on here some where but I can't seem to find it now. So I need either a description of the five steps or a helpful website. The first step is showing the bird I am the boss. OK, well please clarify how I am to do that? Also are the five steps something I do over a matter of days or can all 5 steps be accomplished in one day? Please explain, I am really trying to bond with Callie, and maybe teach her a few new things. Is a 4 year old bird to old to break bad habits and manners as well as form a lasting bond? Any help would be much appreciated.
Callie’s mom Stacy |
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Sunday March 5, 2006 2:53 pm |
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Fluffy Sue
Joined: 13 Jan 2005
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| Re: RE: Five Step Program |
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http://www.fluffies.org/phobic-parrots.htm
All five steps can be accomplished in the matter of 30 seconds..  Else it wouldn't be something for me LOL!
A 4 year old bird can still be trained very well! People using the five step program have parrots that are over 50 and still manage to train these birds! |
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Sunday March 5, 2006 8:03 pm |
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